Lesser of all evils

One of the patients that came into the office today was the daughter of my boss' friend. She had recently gotten married and is now pregnant. It turns out the husband is Caucasian.

For some reason, when I saw this couple, something ran through my mind...

Some time ago, one of my family's friends was talking about interracial relationships. At some point in the conversation, this person had said that she'd rather her daughter be gay (les) than for her to marry a black guy.

A very discriminating statement in so many ways. But quite interesting.

I guess for a lot of Chinese parents, having their son or daughter marry a non-Chinese person is pretty hard to deal with. They're worried about the cultural differences, the lifestyle differences and the communication problems. This is understandable.

But to hear someone say that they'd rather their child be gay/les is really something new. So all those aforementioned problems are more important than the fact that your child has a same-sex partner?!

So for the parents...is it better that the child have a 'normal' relationship with someone that you can't communicate with? Or that the child have a same-sex relationship with someone that you can get to know and understand?

I wonder what my parents think about. Of course, they want the best of both worlds. They don't approve of K's infatuation with Korean guys. And they can't cope with me having a gf.

Hm.

What can I say?