When wrongs become right...

I recently had two very serious but interesting conversations with two people.  One was about ONS, and the other was about 3rd persons.

I'm not going to judge what's right or wrong, nor do I think there is an absolute answer.  What was interesting is that in these two conversations, I realized how much my view about these topics have changed.

I used to think ONS is really bad and really could not understand why anyone would want to do it.  Why would you want to have any intimate contact with someone you don't really love?  I really could not imagine that.  But in the last few years, I realized that, sometimes, all you're really looking for is a physical feeling.  It could simply be someone to hug and hold you, or it could be something more.  Perhaps getting some TLC from a stranger is better than none at all.  In the end, if both people know what they're getting into, then maybe it's not a problem.

Last night someone asked me if I would go after someone who already has a partner.  A few years ago, I would say no and the reason would be because I firmly believe that it's wrong to be the 3rd person.  Today, I say no, simply because I would feel guilty for doing it.  But now, I do not necessarily think it's wrong.  It's wrong in the sense that you're breaking up someone's relationship and hurting whoever gets kicked out.  But it's not wrong to fall for someone who's already taken.  In the end, you can't control who you fall for.

If I said these things to some people, they would think I'm crazy and immoral and a lot of other bad things.  But reality is reality.  Not everything works out the way you want it to.  Not everything is black or white.  Grey areas do exist.  But sometimes, you never know until it happens to you.

When it comes to relationships, who can say if you're right or wrong?