While randomly chatting with my parents today, we started talking about K and her bf. Obviously, my parents do not like the fact that this guy is Korean and seems to be a mommy's boy. Seeing as I have never met him, I have no comment on this.
What my parents are concerned about is that Korean people have very traditional family views and women have a relatively lower status than men. So the concern is that the bf's family will not like K and would want the bf to find someone else. Seeing as this guy doesn't seem very independent, the possible outcome would be that he would listen to his family and end the relationship.
I agree that this is potentially an issue. But to hear my parents say this sort of annoyed me.
So you realize that it would be bad or hurtful for K if this guy decides to listen to his parents and sacrifice the relationship. And, potentially, you would hate the guy for doing it.
But, somehow, you thought it was okay to make me do the same thing. To you, it was perfectly okay to force me to follow your wishes and sacrifice the person on the other side that I equally love? To you, it was perfectly okay that you made me do something so horrible to someone else? To you, the integrity and feelings of that other person meant nothing?
In school, they always mentioned the golden rule in class, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."
If you do not want to be treated that way, how can you go and do the same thing to someone else? If you don't want your kid being treated that way, how could you tell me to do the same thing? For whatever reason, there's always double standards.
I really do not understand.
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