The nature of the field I work in is that we know a lot about the personal lives of our clients. We see their wealth. We see their marriages and divorces. We see their wills. Along with that, we see how nasty it gets when people get a divorce and need to split their assets and we see how nasty it gets when someone dies and the family fights over the estate.
A recent conversation brought up the concept of prenuptial agreements and ways you can potentially protect yourself in the event that a relationship falls apart. A friend of mine was very interested in all the laws and what not and seemed very keen on doing everything possible to protect herself.
There's nothing wrong with that. You have every right to protect yourself and what you own. Despite that, maybe I'm a bit naive, but there is something about that that just seems wrong to me.
Why would you think about what happens when you divorce before you even get married? Are you anticipating a divorce? If so, why are you getting married in the first place?
Do you not trust your partner enough to know that he/she would not go and try to take or steal your wealth and assets in the event that something does go wrong? If so, is this really the right person for you?
Do you not have faith that the relationship between you and him/her is strong enough and on a higher level than all these material things would be sort of irrelevant? Does he/she not have the integrity to still be friends even if it doesn't work out?
Perhaps the image in my mind is overly simplified and idealistic...
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